Resentment

Huska,
I respect your honesty and how hard your situation is. Children will more often than not choose the "better" life whether divorce is a factor or not. One has remained with you, may feel little solace at the moment.....but in time you will appreciate his comfort to you at this difficult time. IMHO its the toughest thing , only second to the death of a child, to be alienated from your children whilst in the pits of poverty and despair and the partner can provide better........but no one can provide parental love better than the parent who wants to.......and you cannot put a price on that......FNF offers support for dads in your situation......google it and best wishes
Elle

I think it's important to deal with feelings of resentment otherwise you will be the architect of your own rejection. Perhaps you need to consider counseling to get things in perspective. In my experience there are multiple determinants often implicating both aligned and rejected parents in the problem, in addition to susceptibility within children themselves.

Hello Huska,

I can relate in some way to your feelings but agree wholeheartedly with all the other comments made about the fact that your daughters still visit you. Children will always be "impressed" by material things but the love of a parent and most importantly the attention of a parent will shine through. Make real quality time for them and encourage the relationship with thier brother too. Just do nice things together that don't cost money (a good long walk out in the countryside where you can chat as you appreciate nature?).

My situ is that my eldest son (I have two) went to live with his father who told him he was his "soulmate and little friend" (He was just coming up to 12 at the time). They have similar interests and my ex used these to his complete advantage (motorbike/fishing that kind of thing). I didn't stand a chance. I haven't seen my son since August 2007 and that was for an hour. My ex seems to have an iron grip on him. I feel like a failure as a mother. I won't get a mother's day card this Sunday I know it - my son won't answer any of my cards/phone calls - I feel somewhat cheated just because I'm female. The boot is on the other foot for you, I can see where you are coming from and it hurts. I can only suggest that you try and nurture what you have the opportunity to with your daughters - at least they communicate and come and see you...ready the 60 minute father - it will make you laugh and cry believe me it's brilliant and you will read it in 60 minutes!!!

Let me know!?