My Wife is an Alcoholic

Stephen,

you can challenge a divorce on ground of any questions over a divorcing parties mental stability. I'm not sure how it goes in the eyes of the law , but to me an acoholic is mental unstable!

If you think that you and your wife can repair your marriage through AA or counselling or therapy, then challenge the divorce and try

JB

Hi Stephen

I understand your situation, as it is very similar to mine. My husband is an alcoholic, but has refused all treatment and help, believing he could stop any time he wanted. He spent thousands of pounds each year on drinking, we had no family life and my children were scared and unhappy.
I decided that I could no longer live like that, nor could I ask my children to. I gave him countless chances for him to seek help with his drinking, but he turned them all down. I loved him and wanted to help and support him,but he just didn't want to help himself. Alcoholics are selfish, they only think of themselves and thier drinking. If anything threatens to get in the way of drinking, then that has to go, like family life, work, friends, etc.
Alcoholism is an illness, a treatable illness, but only if the person wishes to be treated. You are NOT responsible for them drinking, although they will probably tell you you are.
MY children are to lose thier home because he chose drinking over our marriage, but we know we are better off without him.
There are support groups out there for partners of alcoholics, try www.al-anon.alateen.org/ . But until your wife realises she has a problem and wants to seek help, there is very little you can do. Just remember you are not alone, there are others on this site who have been through similar situations to yours (me included), and we are very good on here at giving out support, words of wisdom and virtual hugs.
Take Care
Ruby

Alcoholism is a term with multiple and sometimes conflicting definitions.
In common and historic usage, alcoholism refers to any condition that results in the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages despite the health problems and negative social consequences it causes.
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Bob
Alcohol Rehabilitation

I Know this is a very old thread but it has helped me. My wife has drunk for 12 years and I made the difficult decision to leave her last Friday. Basically I walked out and moved into rented accommodation. She was working and can support herself but she has just told me her latest job will finish next week so i''m nit sure what will happen next. The situation has affected my 2 children and I moved for my daughter - the only thing that has kept me going is attending Al Anon family groups (just google them).If any one picks this up any advice will be gratefully received.