soon to be 'ex' refusing to cooperate with sale

Very frustrated. My husband is refusing to talk to me about or to permit me to put our house on the market even though the divorce is progessing (nisi to be granted on Nov 11 and I am the petitioner). The house is jointly owned and is the only asset that we are jointly involved with. He has made me an offer to buy me out, which I have rejected. So we now need to sell and he is refusing to permit this, talk to me about it, answer communications etc etc. This has been going on for 2 months now. There are no children involved and no solicitors. What can I do? Do I need to get a court order demanding that we sell it? I have bought a new property and am therefore keen to clear the burden and debt of the marital home. Any ideas?
Thanks !!

Was there a good reason to refuse his offer on the house? Perhaps, he likes his home and doesn't want to move. I'm not trying to say you're in the wrong, there may be a good reason why you're refusing to let him buy you out, but try to see his point of view too, it may help you move forward from the stalemate you're in at the moment.

Obviously I may be totally wrong sorry if I am.

Hi and thanks for the response. The reason I rejected his offer was because it was approx 30% less than the 3 independent valuations we had completed. I have offered to accept a compromise number (ie between valuation and his offer to me) which he has rejected. Since then, he refuses to acknowledge anything at all and I think is trying to 'sweat' me out, knowing that I have committed to new financial obligations.Am I being stupid and over-emotional?

No you're not, I can now understand your reason for rejecting his offer.

Perhaps, as you instigated the divorce he is feeling this is the only control he has left. I am new to this lark myself but I have been fortunate that my divorce has gone through with no hiccups.

There must be a way you can "force" him to sell legally but if you could find another way around this it would make life a lot less emotional because if he does this under protest, he could jeopardise the sale in some way.

Have you tried writing to him to appeal to him? Perhaps by writing to him to explain why you rejected his offer, and what you accept etc., and say that you understand that he doesn't want to move etc. but unless he comes up with a better offer he will have to sell, he may rethink. At the moment all emotions are raw and perhaps when you try to contact him, he justs lets his emotional head rule his financial head and by using a letter, he will have time alone to think about things more clearly.

Of course, you may have already done this, and if he continues to refuse to contact him you may need legal advice, which I'm sure you will get here.

Good Luck x

Hi and thanks again for your response. I have tried desperately hard to communicate with him re this. I've talked, emailed, text - every form of communication medium known to me! He just doesn't respond and, if I'm talking face to face, refuses to acknowledge that I'm even in the same room as him! I understand that he may be feeling a little shell-shocked by everything right now (even though it was his affair that caused the divorce)and have offered to take him out for dinner so that we can talk rationally. Still absolutely zero response. Maybe legal is the only answer. And your responses have helped me - at least to see that I'm maybe not being unreasonable.
Thanks !

Glad I could be of some help, even if it was just to see that you're definitely not being unreasonable, especially in light of the reasons for the divorce.

Good Luck with the legal side of things, I'm new to this site too, hopefully, I'll see a post soon whereby your issues will have been resolved.

All the best for the future.

Get real ..... FACT he's not going to co operate I'm afraid - sooner you go legal the better