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Mediation 531 topics

Discuss the role of mediation in divorce. Does it work? How much does it cost? What happens if my ex pulls out? Where can I find a mediator?
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Outcome of todays mediation
well had my first mediation appointment today and although very stressful I feel like I have come away more positive.

Two options to me really offered ...
23 Oct 12, by positive99
Latest 23 Oct 12 by positive99
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Latest by positive99
23 Oct 12
Does mediation work?
I've noticed there aren't many post in the "Mediation" section of the forum, which makes me think not many people actually use it. Or maybe it's that ...
06 Apr 10, by jxr
Latest 23 Oct 12 by ochreloca
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Latest by ochreloca
23 Oct 12
Couple of questions re:mediation
I just wondered about a few things:
Will a mediator discuss / encourage / actively discourage us from talking about the reasons the marriage failed?
Do ...
19 Oct 12, by halflifedecay
Latest 19 Oct 12 by WhiteRose
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Latest by WhiteRose
19 Oct 12
Mediation paperwork.
I am still seething after mediation from hell on Thursday, when the mediator ( a Solicitor) was rude/unprofessional and didn t even know the law, it is such a s ...
14 Oct 12, by cliasmol£7
Latest 15 Oct 12 by cliasmol£7
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Latest by cliasmol£7
15 Oct 12
Mediation in a Separation
My stbx''s solictor has written informing me that she wishes to pursue a Deed of Separation. The letter also informs me that the (previously informally agreed, ...
13 Oct 12, by halflifedecay
Latest 15 Oct 12 by halflifedecay
Replies:3
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Latest by halflifedecay
15 Oct 12
In same room?
I went to see mediator recently and she said I would have to sit in same room as X. I contested this but she seemed to know her job, obviously. After my apprais ...
11 Oct 12, by Gloriasurvive
Latest 12 Oct 12 by maisymoos
Replies:4
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Latest by maisymoos
12 Oct 12
Mediation from hell
Dear All,
Many thanks for all your support.
I knew this morning was going to be difficult, but not to the extent it was.
Mediation Solicitor was bas ...
11 Oct 12, by cliasmol£7
Latest 11 Oct 12 by sulkypants
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Latest by sulkypants
11 Oct 12
Is it worth going ?
I am due to go to mediation later in week to swap financial forms with husband.
He is self employed but works through Ltd companies, which are only him, ref ...
08 Oct 12, by cliasmol£7
Latest 10 Oct 12 by cliasmol£7
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Latest by cliasmol£7
10 Oct 12
Is it worth going back to mediation ?
I went a few weeks ago with husband to mediation, he lied about his employment status, when I confronted mediation service about fact that he had wrong form the ...
25 Sep 12, by cliasmol£7
Latest 26 Sep 12 by Action
Replies:3
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Latest by Action
26 Sep 12
Mediation -
I''ve been asked if i will go to mediation, they tell me it should take 3 1.5hour session - but these are to be done indivually - can some please explain furthe ...
16 Sep 12, by AwaitingDivorce
Latest 17 Sep 12 by leanng
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Latest by leanng
17 Sep 12
Form A accepted without mediation?
STBX contacted a mediator earlier this year, but I declined to attend on the basis that we had already negotiated for three years (directly and via solicitors) ...
08 Sep 12, by SilverFir
Latest 09 Sep 12 by SilverFir
Replies:3
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Latest by SilverFir
09 Sep 12
Mediation farce!
So ex finally turned up to our mediation appointment. Was obvious from start he wasn''t willing to try as he had brought none of the financial documents request ...
30 Aug 12, by perin123
Latest 31 Aug 12 by MrsMathsisfun
Replies:6
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Latest by MrsMathsisfun
31 Aug 12
Mediation
Having recently been made redundant, i now have to apply for legal aid. To get legal i have been told i MUST go through mediation. My divorce is at financial st ...
22 Aug 12, by Diamonds
Latest 22 Aug 12 by .Charles
Replies:2
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Latest by .Charles
22 Aug 12
another Question Re Mediation & settlement
Just wondered, do the courts take into account your current living circumstances, ie there are no children of the marriage, but now lives with new partner who h ...
22 Aug 12, by Topflight
Latest 22 Aug 12 by Topflight
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Latest by Topflight
22 Aug 12
Validity Period of FM1?
Looks like I''m going to have to play any divorce & financial orders absolutely by the book, as I''m being thwarted by any attempts to move things along
17 Jun 12, by SilverFir
Latest 22 Aug 12 by Elphie
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Latest by Elphie
22 Aug 12
Mediation & Settlement
Hi,

Just wanted to ask a question about inheritance as there seems to be lots of conflicting information!

My partner has been separted for nea ...
14 Aug 12, by Topflight
Latest 15 Aug 12 by robinson25
Replies:10
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Latest by robinson25
15 Aug 12
can he take the house?
I went to a mediator for an initial consultation, she said she was certain that with the little equity that would be in our property that a court would entertai ...
06 Jun 12, by Gloriasurvive
Latest 11 Aug 12 by ascatfish
Replies:11
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Latest by ascatfish
11 Aug 12
help mediation costs
have been to mediation with a solicitor and is was quite frankly useless. i paid for all the sessions up to the last session totaling £900. the last session i ...
20 Jul 12, by dermot49
Latest 07 Aug 12 by TBagpuss
Replies:1
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Latest by TBagpuss
07 Aug 12
cancelled
well my first mediation appointment with ex was yesterday and surprise surprise he cancelled it on the morning!

Would have been more shocked if he hadn ...
12 Jul 12, by perin123
Latest 06 Aug 12 by Stingrayj
Replies:7
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Latest by Stingrayj
06 Aug 12
mediation with a restraining order
Hi all

Just like to say what a fantastic site with a wealth of information on it

i am currently bound by a restraining order to no contact wit ...
04 Aug 12, by tonyshrops
Latest 05 Aug 12 by tonyshrops
Replies:3
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Latest by tonyshrops
05 Aug 12
First mediation session
I have just been to my first mediation and it was dreadful can anybody help.

Started by the female mediator in my 121 stating the last time she had a S ...
26 May 12, by Clydesdale
Latest 16 Jul 12 by Fiona
Replies:10
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Latest by Fiona
16 Jul 12
survived 1st mediation
Well I survived it, and my ex husband lost his cool, lovely. He showed his cards seems he wants a better house and is worried that when his pension comes out ne ...
01 Jul 12, by justmekim
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Do I need to attend?
My stbx has refused to enter into mediation. However, the mediation service have told me I still need to pay £65 to attend a session before they''ll provide m ...
26 Jun 12, by Salisburyeagle
Latest 26 Jun 12 by lonely and confused
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Latest by lonely and confused
26 Jun 12
18 Jun 12, by EGGBOX
Latest 22 Jun 12 by dukey
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Latest by dukey
22 Jun 12
mediation first visit
HELP I have just got my date for mediation.
I posted in then divorce section then found this.
my ex is going to reduce me to rubble as he has done for t ...
31 May 12, by justmekim
Latest 01 Jun 12 by epitome title
Replies:3
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Latest by epitome title
01 Jun 12
just advise please
see previous post ...
31 May 12, by justmekim
Latest 01 Jun 12 by LittleMrMike
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Latest by LittleMrMike
01 Jun 12
Re Mediation Meeting
Went to second mediation meeting today ... awful! Hoped to discuss living arrangements (we''re both living in FH still - unbearable!) Is there point continuing? ...
29 May 12, by PhoebeBlue
Latest 30 May 12 by Action
Replies:1
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Latest by Action
30 May 12
Combination of mediation and court.
Hi,

I have had to go back for another initial mediation session because I am changing solicitor and it has been more than 4 months since my last visit. ...
26 May 12, by xxxxhelpxxxx
Latest 27 May 12 by LittleMrMike
Replies:1
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Latest by LittleMrMike
27 May 12
Mediation spreadsheet
I have to complete this and am confused. My ex lives in the martial home with her new partner - she denies he makes any contributions. I live in my new home wit ...
26 May 12, by Clydesdale
Latest 26 May 12 by Bobbinalong
Replies:4
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Latest by Bobbinalong
26 May 12
the financial spreadsheet for mediation
Hi, Just started mediation and have disclosed our respected finances on individual spreadsheet before meeting. Now the controlling STBX has contacted the mediat ...
23 May 12, by jane61
Latest 24 May 12 by Fiona
Replies:1
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Latest by Fiona
24 May 12
Mediation Before Separation
So, I am going through a slow and protracted relationship breakdown. The causes are my partner''s controlling, and what I consider to be, constant abusive behav ...
23 May 12, by DrDaddy
Latest 24 May 12 by Fiona
Replies:4
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Latest by Fiona
24 May 12
Mediation
My husband and I are due to attend our 2nd mediation meeting on the 29th. I know my husband is dragging his feet. We live in the same house and have done since ...
19 May 12, by PhoebeBlue
Latest 20 May 12 by MrsMathsisfun
Replies:1
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Latest by MrsMathsisfun
20 May 12
Can I bypass mediation?
Bear with me, I have good reason for doing so!

Am about to start divorce proceedings then financial proceedings in England, but have already been throu ...
13 May 12, by SilverFir
Latest 16 May 12 by epitome title
Replies:6
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Latest by epitome title
16 May 12
Financial agreement
My ex and I are thinking of going to the family mediators to help us to agree our financial settlement for our divorce. Has anyone any experience in doing it th ...
21 Mar 12, by Vanessa62
Latest 15 May 12 by Imediate
Replies:3
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Latest by Imediate
15 May 12
How do I initiate mediation?
My X has approached me and I agree we need to now go to mediation.

How do I go about this as cheaply and as cheaply as possible, money is getting so ti ...
09 May 12, by Gloriasurvive
Latest 13 May 12 by Imediate
Replies:2
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Latest by Imediate
13 May 12
Mediation Help
My husband and I are due to go to our second meeting soon (initiated by him following his first hefty bill from his solicitor). Our first meeting in Feb. was a ...
13 May 12, by PhoebeBlue
Latest 13 May 12 by Imediate
Replies:2
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Latest by Imediate
13 May 12
Mediation financial forms- help needed
Hi
I have my first joint mediation meeting with ex in a week and have to complete the financial information form.
My question is - I am self employed, i ...
08 May 12, by madcatwoman
Latest 08 May 12 by madcatwoman
Replies:2
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Latest by madcatwoman
08 May 12
mediation request
Received letter today from mediation place. Ex''s solicitor has requested it. I have been asking for mediation for over a year now but told no, now ex wants it! ...
26 Apr 12, by perin123
Latest 08 May 12 by ascatfish
Replies:6
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Latest by ascatfish
08 May 12
Legal help and mediation
I understand if you are getting legal help then mediation is free?
Ex is on legal help and has a solicitor who after ages has requested mediation. Someone h ...
29 Apr 12, by perin123
Replies:0
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Any advice or tips
We''ve got our first mediation session on Monday where after the initial discussion with each of us there will be a joint meeting.

I am really not look ...
28 Apr 12, by JanMK16
Latest 28 Apr 12 by Action
Replies:1
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Latest by Action
28 Apr 12

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