Court after one mediation session

My Ex has deemed that she does not want to go back to mediation citing "on reflection" it will not be possible to reach an agreement. We recently sold a property and a large sum of money is sitting with a solicitor waiting on an agreement. I dont have the money to pay for mediation as she deems the only way forward is that I pay (She''s divorcing me!) I asked for some of the proceeds from the house to help pay for mediation and she has decided that is not feasible.

Will the judge take any notice of the fact that I''m happy to return to mediation and it''s obivously just a financial reason for her. The only ones to suffer are going to be the kids if we have huge court costs.

Sorry to be negatove here. The judge is unlikely to be bothered. If it reaches court stage, mediation would have deemed to have ''failed''.

Yep, judges often spout common sense about how the parties shouldn''t be in court, shouldn''t be wasting the limited pot, should be doing mediation, but they don''t seem to actually then do much about it. I think mediation is usually refused by the more unreasonable party because they don''t like what they hear from the independent mediator - they then take the view that they might as well go for the court "lottery", especially if female, as despite it slowly changing I am firmly of the view that many judges are very biased that way. She''s worked out the system, your ex, you''re in trouble...!

I was going down the mediation route but my wife made it impossible by causing so much trouble at home that I couldn''t fulfil the various tasks set by mediators in regard to getting stuff valued etc. Also she did some stuff that meant face to face mediation would have been impossible.
I suppose you have to make it very clear that you were willing to mediate.. Let her call it off....

Has your ex put a court application in as there are other means to reach a financial agreement - collaboration/arbitration? It may be that she is refusing to continue with mediation in the hope that you will make an offer. You could always call her bluff and see what she does next.