Hi all
I hope by relating this, it won''t put any of you off from going to
mediation. This was just a bad experience for me.
We had a shuttle mediation which meant that I was in one room and my STBX was in another. They went into speak to him to find out his issues.
In a nutshell, he''s accusing me of having money I''ve not told the solicitor about.
He says I''ve got an undeclared business - I told them yes i have got a business that I''m trying to set up at the moment, but I''m not earning from it.
He says I''ve got a pension that I didn''t reveal to the solicitor from when I worked for the Civil Service. I said I did give the solicitor the letter, but it''s not even worth the paper it''s written on!
He said that I''ve got a monthly income coming in from my mum - No! and have I got a trust fund? no!
The solicitor has said to him that he should account for my son being in the family home and that''s why he''s not getting half. His solution...Put him in supported living!
and last but not least...He''s accused me of hacking into his account. ROFL!!! I wouldn''t know how to hack and if I did then why would I bother? I''m not interested lol.
The mediation team were less than sympathetic and no empathy whatsoever. I thought it was supposed to be less stressful than court!
I felt pushed into a corner and asked to reveal more information than I was prepared to give, such as the offers that my solicitor has put on the table and how much my mum is prepared to give my STBX as she is buying him out. At this stage I do not wish my STBX to know either of those details.
The mediation team said to me to forget about what my solicitor wants, what do I want? IMO, this is what you get a solicitor for to sort out the financial side of things.
I have spoken to a colleague at my solicitor''s firm as my solicitor was on annual leave. I will be speaking to her today at some point.
I walked out of that mediation office wound up and stressed out! is this how it''s supposed to make you feel?
I don''t want to go to mediation again and suffer like that. I feel sick about it all and disgusted by my STBX.
He''s not got a solicitor. Could I say to my solicitor that I don''t want to sort out the financial side of things until he''s got himself a solicitor? This whole process is making me ill!
