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Hello again.
Chatsworth hereI'm on my mobile and don't know how to direct message people who helped me in here before like rubytuesday and michum and any other people that remember me.
sadly I need some advice as I just received a txt from my son yesterday and it's blown my mind.
Any advice and help how to deal with this shocking message, would be great

Post details and someone will help.

Hi, anyone who remembers me, and new please help, Im in shock and it's always on my mind since Tuesday.

Basically 2018 my son stopped visiting me, he was 11 then, sayingI've got road rage,
I gamble,
I only got the cats to blackmail him, and more,
So I've txt and gave him presents, money, cards etc on birthdays, Christmas, Easter, end of terms. I've never stopped that, I occasionally got the thanks text from him.
however I'm not aloud to go to his school for parents evenings or sports day because at 11 years old he tells me I have to have his permission, a strange thing to say.
I have been in contact with his mum for the last 3-4 year's through email occasionally, MCAS keep me informed how he's doing at school, he's doing fantastically, I'm so proud of him, he has dyslexia and slow processing but that hasn't stopped him.
So
At the beginning of February I emailed her and said I've been made redundant and will pay maintenance this month, and I'll see what I can give when I have the ability to give some kind of maintenance, I was only at my last job 15 months so just get standard redundancy,
I mentioned in the email I'm so proud of him and love him and miss him so much, 5 years ago I last saw him for 10 minutes on the doorstep.
So when he went to big school, he's also in his teens I know he's growing up, hormones and things,
So asking his mum how he's doing in general and what he wants as a big present for Christmas, the reply was, just money, I said can you ask him please, no reply, anyway she still lives with her mum and her mums boyfriend in a lovely house,

Sorry getting back to the email about being made redundant and maintenance, I get this from my son
I'm gobsmacked, speechless, shocked, in disbelief, he just doesn't know how it's hurt me, I feel empty, all the things, the times, the laughs, everything and he sends me this.
We know he's been manipulated from a young age by his mum, maybe her mum to, but I honestly don't know that,
But to suddenly stop seeing me at 11 to now, nearly 16,
I never said anything horrible about any of the family, his mum was vague on replying to me,

So to have the txt sent to me,. I now know I've lost my son forever, that txt says it all.
A very articulate text.

Have a read and good positive advice please,
I'm trying to remain positive because I don't want to sink.

Chats

I don't know know how to anonymise the post - hence multiple attempts at deletion! I can message. You with advice over similar situation if you want

I was here under a different name away back in 2012 to maybe 2014. I remember both those names that you put up. I think I was under Gloriasurvive or something twee like that. Where you on here around those dates?

Sorry to hear you are on here again. Same old, same old isn't it? x

I'm so sorry to hear about this loss. Loss is horrible and we never know how to deal with it emotionally. I hope your spiritual heart heals with God's help. I know that is what I am holding onto right now.

Txt sent to us in post above. 18 February 2023 is attached, long message with atatchment at bottom, just above quick reply button