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Considering Divorce options due to extended separation due to COVID

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Clyde-73
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03 Apr 21 #516389 by Clyde-73

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I will try not to waffle. Trying to create a bullet point history of events.

I was in military in 1991-2013. Owning own house mortgage free by 2009 in Scotland which was rented out to others while I worked and lived in military barracks in England.
Married in Scotland April 2012 and moved in with my wife in England giving up the room I had on the nearby military base I worked at.
Sold my house in Scotland Oct 2012 in order to clear my wife's mortgage and pay off her ex husbands stake in the property.
Wife imposed I sign a letter in front of her solicitor to agree to allow the title deeds of her house to be in her name only and not include mine.
Within a year of marriage relationship showed signs of breakdown.
Sought SSAFA assistance and attended one session of RELATE counselling meeting.
Left military in June 2013 after 22 years service with MOD pension.
Worked as Agency HGV driver to sustain the bills being paid until I took up new job in Gibraltar October 2013.
Moved with Wife to Gibraltar, living in Spain from October 2013 - May 2015. Wife's home in UK was effectively given to her oldest daughter on premise to rent it from us but I doubt she ever paid a single month's rent to us.
Wife not working since 2012 and reliant on my income.
After returning to UK under job relocation within company I spent weekdays away staying in hotels while working at various sites. Travelling home for weekends this continued from 2015 through to 2019.
The relationship in my opinion only deteriorated further due to the lack of trust and intimacy between us.
Due to company saving on hotels they have now changed my role from "home as base" to "HQ as base" which is 300miles away from family (Wife's) home. Relocation package option has provided me accommodation with utility bills and rent paid for 2 years from August 2019.
July 2021 will be the end of this rent support and will mean I will no longer be able to afford the generous financial support I have been continuing to provide to my wife.
The 2 year relocation package also offered paid flights and taxis to get home each weekend but since COVID lockdown in March 2020 I have not been home and have been "working from home" (rented flat near HQ).
I suspect when the 2 Year rent package ends my best option will be for the company to allow me to continue to "work from home" but move back to the family (wife's) home.
I am now seriously considering the option to divorce as I am anxious about the move back home and as communications are limited to a goodnight text each day we certainly don't seem to be in a loving relationship.
I have omitted the finer details of incidents in 2014 and 2015 where domestic abuse has been experienced between us and on two occasions this has led to a Court appearance. The first incident in Spain in 2014 forced the decision to look to move back to UK.

My first question is if I were to divorce would I be able to reduce the monthly support payments to my wife and protect my pension from my wife gaining access if she has effectively had me already sign the house over to her back in 2012 when I signed the letter/paperwork in front of her solicitor. I would need as much as I could scrape together to help me find a property to live in as no savings to speak of.
My second question is that since we married in Scotland would I benefit more by seeking a divorce through Scottish law courts rather than English?
Note we have no children together but her children are all grown up now and not living at family home.
I've not seen my wife in person since December 2019 and that was a very stressful time.

Any advice welcome.

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