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Coersion/harassment

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07 Mar 19 #506560 by strongerthanithought
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Divorced 6 years, ongoing hassle from exh, much abuse of various kinds in marriage. Hardly ever sees kids, cannot communicate civilly, etc.

Brought up something in conversation the other night - told me he had evidence of an alleged crime that (if true) would cost me my job, my children and my liberty. Could potentially cost me my job even if he told my employer without police being involved. This is not the first time he has made this claim.

Could the police follow this up as on going abuse? Reading that coercive control only happens between people who live together or, for example that you co-parent with. We've not lived together for 9 years.

Do I call the police for harassment? I'm in pieces, can't eat, can't sleep. Feel like I did 10 years ago when I've come so far.

Thanks

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07 Mar 19 #506561 by rubytuesday
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I suggest you call the National Domestic Violence Abuse helpline on 08002000247 for advice.

Making threats like this is part of coercive control- and ex-partners/spouses can be victims even if they are no longer in a relationship.

www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support...se/coercive-control/

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07 Mar 19 #506562 by strongerthanithought
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Ah thanks Ruby, I couldn't find clarification if it counts if you are not living together any more.

Looks like the youknowwhat is about to hit the fan then. I refuse to allow him to get under my skin any more

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