ExW has contacted police after drop off allegation

I received a call from the police yesterday regarding an alleged incident that supposedly took place last Friday evening. The policeman said that they had been contacted by her as our 14yo disabled son had called her in a distressed state as he was on the doorstep of her home after i had dropped him off. The policeman said that she had told him she was shopping and has a receipt from the supermarket for 7.20pm and that he had called her at 7.23pm, but he was still with me at that time as i did not drop him off until just after 7.30pm. All her lights were on as I waited outside as he walked past her car until he opened the door and walked inside. As we are due in court again this week re enforcement, i fear that this is just a ploy by her to try to discredit me and try to get both children back as we have shared residence. The police have said now that they have to provide a report for social services.
My ex has never been able to accept the SRO and has been difficult from start to finish. She has constantly made accusations of a bullying and controlling nature against me which have all been disproven in previous court hearings but i feel this is an all time low. I think that she has been extremely calculating in plotting this and i genuinely fear for the future emotional wellbeing of our two children who are 13 and 14.
I have made an application to court to vary the existing SRO which reflects our children''s true wishes and
feelings in response to her enforcement aplication but i am extremely worried now of emotional state and the impact that it could have on our children. Does anyone have any advice. I''m really desperate now. Help!!

Does your son disability prevent him from confirming what actual happened at drop off?

Is this the normal pattern that you wait in the car until you see your son has gone into the house rather than you walking him up to the front door and checking your wife is actually in doors?

You need to keep calm over one misunderstanding and put checks in place to make sure it doesn''t happen again. If its never happened before how we''re you to know she wasn''t in ( or was and is now making things difficult for you and your son).

Hi

Not completely sure what the arrangements are for handing the children back to the ex but if she knew that he was on his way back and she was running late for whatever reason then why for goodness sake didn''t she tell you or him.

If he did make that call to her, there will be a record of it which will show the time it was made.

Did she leave the house unlocked. Who does that in this day and age. If she had secured the property properly you would have known she wasn''t at home....

This may sound ridiculous but are there any cctv cameras in the area that could prove when she returned to the house, that''s if she left it of course.

I can appreciate the stress and the emotion here and how you need some help, but for future reference regardless of the outcome of this incident I would be thinking of a more robust handover, one which cannot allow for anything like this to happen again. If she did leave the house unlocked on this occasion, what if an intruder was already inside the house when he went in and disturbed him.

LG

Your in court due to your ex wishing to enforce current arrangements which you and your younger son chose to change without consultation?

Did you put in for a variation? Was this to stop issues like this one?

MrsMathsisfun wrote:

Does your son disability prevent him from confirming what actual happened at drop off?

He could confirm but i havent seen or heard from him since friday. i dont have him again until after school thursday so that will give her 6 days to work on him and i wouldnt put it past her!!

Pipsqueakthefirst wrote:

Is this the normal pattern that you wait in the car until you see your son has gone into the house rather than you walking him up to the front door and checking your wife is actually in doors?

You need to keep calm over one misunderstanding and put checks in place to make sure it doesn''t happen again. If its never happened before how we''re you to know she wasn''t in ( or was and is now making things difficult for you and your son).

This is the normal pattern. She wont allow me on her property as she has made unsubstantiated allegations against me in the past at various court hearings. Nothing has ever happened apart from her assaulting me in front of the kids which i asked the police to have a word with her about.