No contact

How do people manage the no contact thing when you still have kids?

I don''t want the kids to know how difficult it is for me to speak to her but the pain of even looking at her is brutal. I am just not sure how I will cope with having to see her.

She is in the garage now getting her boxes sorted out for packing and it is killing me.

M.

Hi Moona - if you can go away for the weekend it will help...do you have friends nearby you could stay with?

Not tonight unfortunately.

Just going to have to grind it out.

M.x

i have been following but not commented, but this current situation you''re in, is just too painful to read and not respond.
Don''t know what to say to you, but keep going, it will get better, we''ve all done it and you will too.
My heart was broken into a million pieces 15 months ago, sounds such a long time but it has flown by. Take one day at a time, no point in looking too far into the future, things change.
When she''s gone change anything you can, move furniture around, redecorate, buy different clothes, play different music, anything to avoid visiting memory lane.
Back to the question you originally asked, do you have anyone who could collect them for you, or if she''s dropping them off, could someone be there to answer the door for you, they''ll be no need for her to come in as it will no longer be her home, you could just stay out of the way until she''s gone.
I had to stop answering the door in case it was him, he used to just call round using the line ''I just popped round to say hello'' punishing me more like, here I am, but you can''t have me! He just used me to stroke his ego, and once I''d begged enough and was reduced into a heap, he''d leave, so watch out for that.
Be strong
Thinking of you

Thanks all.

The messages do help. I just seem to be spending more and more time on here.

I just want the next days to be over so I can start the process of adjusting.

She still thinks we will be able to be friends and see each other through the week etc. She just does not understand the abject pain and sadness I feel when I look at her.

M.

The next few days are going to be hard,there is no question about that,and maybe this is where you will hit the floor,then you start to get back up...

I think having younger children,the no contact can be difficult, there are things you need to discuss,but keep that contact to a minimum, for your sanity.However I would imagine when you pick your kids up will have massive boost on your well being,so although your still sad,seeing the kids will help...

Moona,now I will say a cliche,we all know that your hurting very much and feeling very low,but TIME is a massive healer,it really does get easier,not perfect but easier...

Just concentrate on yourself and the kids,paint on a smile(yes hard I know)you have got us lot supporting you,and frankly from the wiki''s I have been lucky enough to meet,a more supportive lot would be hard to find...

Stay strong
Cwtchs
Afon xx

I had that ''I want to remain friends line'' sorry, but friends don''t treat me that way, so that''s a no!
You''re right, they don''t get it, it''s all about them, so I''m afraid you are going to have to get selfish, if you don''t want to see her....Don''t! I can''t stress that enough.
I have not set eyes on mine since last Nov, but up until March he was still sending me messages and calling me with his tales of woe about how miserable he was, until I finally took notice of everyone on here and in my life, and accepted he was playing me like a fiddle, just like he always has done. I put a stop to it, and guess what, he hasn''t bothered since, and I am so much happier.
For 12 months he allowed me to think he was coming home, why would anyone do that unless it benefited them, still have no idea why he did it, only to make himself feel wanted I guess, doesn''t say much for his new woman then does it, if he had to come to me to feel wanted and loved.
Anyway, you will be fine, we all are eventually.