Seven months.

You thought you were a person who could cope. You were right. Feeling sad, depressed, despondent, is normal and to be expected. And still you cope. Taking antidepressants will possibly help you to cope. Counselling covers all manner of things - I expect all of it can help. In my case antidepressants didn''t seem to make too much difference, but I may be wrong. I was lucky enough to have a year''s psychodynamic counselling on the NHS, which I (previously a ''that''s all a lot of self indulgent clap trap'' type of person) found enormously useful - I wish I could have had more. I was able to see stuff about myself and my responses which helped. (I still struggle to understand how X''s mind works...)

Remember: you ARE coping. It''s not a picnic, but you are coping, and you will go on coping and gradually things will get easier.

Thank you all for your kind words. I feel completely dysfunctional this week, overwhelmed by both the emotion and the practical concerns of finding somewhere else to live. The new drug is also making me feel more nervous (though I was warned that it might to begin with)... I will try to believe that it will get better.

Hey Lonevoyage
Get this straight . You are not alone . You are definitely not alone .
I saw the name you gave yourself . Why that name ? Is that how you feel ?

Selfies , been there . Yes you are so so right . The eyes . The pain . The depression . .

Well , gonna tell you a secret .
You my wiki friend are going to pull through this and become a stronger wiser happier person . Cliche , I know . It''s true .

If you can just see that it is your thoughts that shackle you .

I will ask just one question of you today .

Why ? Do you think your ex is responsible for your happiness . .

This is just one question of many more we need to figure out for ourselves .

I support you and we all walk shoulder to shoulder with each other . We have to help ourselves . Question our thoughts ? Dismiss the lie we tell ourselves .

When my ex went I thought I would never cope or get through the day .
I really thought this is it my life is over . I cannot believe the lies I told myself . Incredible really .

Look , you are doing the right things , nature , professional advice from the doctor . Posting on this wonderful support group .

Make a start on catching your negative thoughts .

Go ask yourself that question
Why .

Once that is cleared up you can move onto other why questions .

You can find them yourself .
Why am I afraid leaving FMH
Why do I concern myself with what ex thinks
Why me
There are lots of whys

Then move up a gear Do the thought processes I currently have serve me or put me in pain .

Your going to be ok

Man hug
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