1 year on...

Sorry that your feeling low Wally,and we can all sympathise with those feelings.
Missing you family unit is very hard,my tsunami kicked off in 2011,and I still miss the unit that we were,although I have moved forwards in every other way,those precious moments are now different and can be difficult, as I feel sorry for him,not sharing them.
Your wife though is playing nasty and dare I say childish,stopping you see the poor dog,what can she gain from that?You have to have contact due to your son,so keeping things amicable will help you all....

You say you tried anti depressants, and they never helped,well go back to your GP and talk to him/her,there are plenty of others you can try,and also other therapies that they can advise you on,that are available in your area.

Regarding your work,this is a difficult one,maybe your having problems because you not concentrating enough,I am only surmising this,because you have not said what the problems are. Some people think that you can get over separation and eventual divorce very quickly,but honestly it takes time(if we ever do)and at some point it will be your time...

You are thinking about what has to be,and yes that is not going to go away,but that also can be done in bitesize pieces.Think about that instead of the whole,manage what you can when you can....

Wally finding new friends will also help,they will be your friends and not know anything about your past,so try out some new clubs etc..

I could say that this time next year,you will be fine,but none of us has a crystal ball and hopefully you will be fine,but one thing I am sure of,you will be stronger and that is a positive for you:)

Wally,we are all here to support you,and yes the road will be rocky,but the destination has the capacity to be brilliant.

Take care and stay strong.
Cwtchs
Afon x

Than you all for your kind replies.. Just knowing you are all out there and have had similar experiences is quite empowering itself. I have allies!

I think when I finish counselling I may start going to a yoga class which falls on the same day.

I will start looking at the short term. One day at a time.

I suppose the most hurtful thing is my wife''s nastiness. I did nothing wrong and she just turned on me one day

Morning Wally
I think that''s the thing we all find the hardest, that the person we shared every part of our lives with suddenly becomes so nasty when they leave us, my belief is, it''s the only way they can cope with their guilt, they project their feelings of loathe for themselves on us, and the more they do it the easier it becomes for them, they actually believe we are the ones who did wrong.
When mine left, he treated me in the way I would have expected to be treated if I had been the one who left for someone else.
Please don''t make the mistake I made and believe your wife is still your friend, she is not, she only cares about herself. She will no doubt want to know what''s going on in your life, knowledge is power after all, tell her nothing!

I have read so many times on here how the other party, male or female becomes for want of a better way of putting it, a selfish cruel monster.

I''m sure there are many amicable divorces, but I don''t think it''s possible if it was only one persons decision to end the marriage.
I take comfort in knowing you cannot build happiness on someone else''s misery, that in my husbands case is true, he''s miserable, no money, the gf is a fruitcake, but he''d still rather have her than me.
I believe it''s because he knows I''ve turned my life around and do have a reasonably good life, and am now far to strong for him to control me anymore!
Thinking of you Wally, it will get easier, you''re going to have good days and bad days, everyone does whatever their life situation is, we just focus on our break up on a bad day because it''s the biggest thing in our life at the moment, others focus on being unhappy, having no money, fed up with the kids fighting, health issues, getting old, there are many things people get really down about, and sometimes there''s no reason.
Might try yoga myself!
Lipstick x