fdr outcome

Thanks 5 !! Gives hope to us all !! Thats good that in 4 months it will be over with! We are hoping the First Appointment will turn into the FDR and that the judge will see that my partner has been nothing but reasonable even down to paying for his STBX Car expenses for all of last year. Was the FDR judge critical of your Ex for not accepting your offers ?

It is horible. I have managed the best I could in the 4 years he has been gone. He has only paid 4% of net pay in maintenace, a shortfall of around £6K in 4 years. I have taken lots of advice, even had a telephone interview with the family law practice on wiki. It doesn't matter what I offer him he just rejects it. Even mediation before court, he just rejected it saying he was taing me to court and that was that. He stays with his at his girlfriends home most of the time and takes our daughter to her home to stay over on the one night a week she stays with her dad. I have evidence that in the last 6 weeks he has stayed over 94% nights. The 6% are the nights I have not been able to drive over to get evidence. He said on his eform he is not cohabiting and does not intend to within the next 6 months. He says he needs £34K as his deposit on new home.........?? He has managed the last 4 years to house himself.
I am just so upset and worried. I just want this all over.

Thats awful!! Its a shame that so many situations can end up just like your one. It seems odd that he does not want to negotiate with you and clearly very shortsighted with his demands????

We are at the other end of the spectrum where my partner has done everything on a voluntary basis and was pretty much paying for everything like he was still living there. She doesn't believe however that he is entitled to anything ??? It just goes to show that woman can be just as unreasonable as men in some situations.

I just feel so sorry for you ... you just cannot move on until this is resolved can you?? It is the waiting around that is the awful thing. Everything seems to take so long.

FDR is next month hopefully for us but who knows ?? Last thing anyone wants is for this to drag out over Xmas ..

Hi
I wont let this drag on over Xmas. We have to have the house valued and submit to the court by 15th Sept. If it is valued at a reasonable amount I think I will instruct my solicitor to ask for a 70/30 split, to cover housing costs for our daughter and the capital I have spent in 4 years on the MH and no other financial claim on his nice pension etc. This may be enough for me to find somewhere for my daughter and I to live.
I just feel so alone

Please let me know how you get on at FDR