had FDR now FH and self rep

we had FDA FDR she would not agree, now final hearing,
the married home has been sold, i have a buyer for thkej second property, but she will not agree to sell this is the easiest way to split 50 50 as the figures left at the end of the day are fact and not ambigus. her solicitor is not responding to me as i am aelf repand the respondant, it is her solicitor that has to prepare bundles and such, i have offered the sale but she will not answer, she want FH which i find silly we will end up with about 160k each less her legal bills and her debts is there any advise you can give to me for self rep at FH and or should i write to the courts and tell them the situation

ty

allcraft,

a couple of things....

1) Her sol will not communicate with you while you have a sol of your own on record at the court. So if you are self repping now u need to tell the court to take your old sols name off the court record. Once that is done there is no good reason that her sol should be unable to communicate directly with u.

2) Wiki will soon be significantly expanding its support for self reppers. Not sure when your FH is. But look out for much more self help info in the July/August time frame.

3) There are a couple of posts (one by me) with specific tips for final hearing preparation. Search the forum using the search box for 'final hearing preparation'.

Good luck
DBNO

all craft I am in a similar situ but just going into FDA and am self repping. I am having a really bad time with my wifes sol as I am self repping.Keep plugging away and if you are not getting rersponse go to the partners or if the sol is a partner then look to the customer care partner in the practice or the SRA and Law Society. Fight fire with fire but know what is achievable.

You are quite right to keep the court advised of the situation and if the other side are being obstructive then keep a good record opf your letters/calls etc as evidence.

Nothing to stop you writing to the court manager to request deferment if the information is not being made available to you in a reasonable time frame.

Stay strong ....(i know its damn hard having been up until 4 last night doing my form E bundle).

her sol knows i am self rep as we were at the fda fdr they will not mediate as told to br the judge if i am allowed to sell the second house which she will not agree to it would cut court time and costs but she seems to want the judge to make the decision the DJ already told her the starting point is equality

TY FOR THE SUPPORT

YOUR FORM E UNLESS THERE IS LOTS OF MONEY PENSIONS PROPERTY THEY ARE A WASTE OF TIME,

I PUT MINE IN ON TIME TO THE DJ HER SOL GAVE ME THERE ON THE DAY OF THE FDR, ALL THE DJ WANTED WAS IT TO BE SETTLED THEY GAVE A DECISION BUT EX DID NOT WANT IT, YOU WILL STILL HAVE CHANCE TO SORT IT OUT BEFORE AND DURING THE HEARING, I FOUND HONESTY THE BEST WAY ALL THE WAY THROUGH AS NOTHING CANCOME AND BIT YOU IN THE BUM HAVE FUN:lol:

Allcraft,

I disagree with you about Form E, I think it is the best bit about the whole process. It enables apples to be compared with apples; big or small.

I too put down everything openly and honestly in my Form E, I do not think my x did, however and it is a great shame that people connive and lie and perjure themselves when swearing the form, but then I am honest to the point of stupidity and feel I shafted myself with the Consent Order - still I am happy it's over because no amount of money is going to buy me back the health I lost during the process.

Good luck with the self-repping!

YA

May not be relevant, but the judge at my hearing was annoyed that my x2bs sol refused my quadrupled submisions of response to a late motion and expected his hearsay submisions be accepted as evidence. I amhoping that this is considered. My experience has taught me to lodged everything....no matter hoe ir/relaevant you think it is....ason theday....if its lodged, even if its toilet, it has to be adressedif you choose.
Hope this helps
Elle