kids and new partners.............

They are your children too and if you think both they and your new partner are ready to meet then that is your decision, not your ex's.

Four years ago when I was the new partner, my partner's now ex-wife also insisted on meeting me before I met the kids - believe me she really wasnt happy that the meeting between myself and the kids went ahead anyway!
Once we did meet, her first words were -"you must be her, I'm his wife!", I stopped myself from being sarcastic and enquiring as to whether she actually had a name?!

Needless to say, we never hit it off and to this day she still does her best to intervere in our lives - unfortunately this is something we will have to put up with until the boys are old enough to make their own decisions.

My point is, most people want to meet the new partner under the disguise its for the kids - although I not saying this is always the case. Its really not fair to put someone in this position.

take care x

I can guarantee that when she gets a new partner, you will a) be the last to find out and b) Made obvious that it is none of your business. Do not let this woman dictate anything to do with your new relationship as she will try (by the sounds of her) to cause as much trouble as she can, and will always use the excuse “I’m only looking out for child”. You will have accusations of putting your partner before your child, not spending enough quality time with your child etc, etc, all because she feels she is losing the control she had over you.

As long as you are in a loving relationship, this will give your child the stability and safety that all children thrive on whilst with you. Your new partner will understand that there are times you need quality alone time with your child. As long as you are providing a safe, loving, family environment for your child, do not fall victim as many man does of continuing to let the ex control their lives. Its over!

Forget Separation Agreements, go straight for divorce.

You sound a fantastic father, you know whats right for your kids and Im sure you will know what it feels right to introduce your new partner to your children.

I hate controlling women, particularly when there is a loving father involved.

My children don't have that and I feel for them. I would give anything for them to have a loving father.