child social services

hi i separated from my childs mother four months ago we have been going through a very bitter separation where she has stpped me seeing my daughter many times about a month ago things were fine i'd been having my daughter weekends i found out from one of my ex's friends who is a drug dealer that she had been there with my daughter and had been smoking cannabis in the room i was very annoyed about this and tried to speak to her about it she was very rude saying a was trying to controll her life i said if she did not understand that what she was doing was a risk to my daughter health i would ask social services to talk to her she hung up the following day i rang social servises and told them the woman aggreed with me about it and said someone would be in touch i told my ex who then decided i could no longer se my daughter which has been very hard n me two weeks later a social worker called asking me to come for an interview the next week so i did when i got there i exspected to talk about the problem i had arose but she seemed more concerned about why me and my ex could not communicate and how my criminal record from when i was a teen was such a problem i told her that was nearly ten years ago and since having my child i've become alot more responcible she carried on by saying that i was picking on my ex for not letting me see my child and that she would sugest my ex take an injunction out on me this made me very angry and i left i went strait to my solicitors and and before i had a chance to say anything she asked if the social worker was concerned about the drug dealer and if she had talk about an injunction i said yes she told me that they did not want to take the case on and that this is their way of fobbing me off by threatening to have an injunction would make me worried enough to drop any complaints about my ex i know i've wrote alot today but could really do with some advice on how to complain about this as i feel i've been done wrong where my ex is at fault:angry:

I think you need to clarify with your solicitor what they meant.

if they are saying they can't deal with it it may be that:

1. They thought that Sopcial Services aer planning to become more involved, and they do not deal with cases conerning Care/ Social Services

2. That (if you have Legal Help / Legal Aid) they were advising you that this would not cover an application for an injunction

3. Thatthey were advising you againt pursuing it further with Social Services.


Obviously they should have made this clear to yuou, and it is reasonable for you to speak to them again, make clear that you want to pursue the issue of contact to make sure that you can start seeing your daughter again.

If your solicitor is not willing to fiollow this up then you can contact a different solicitor, althouhg do be aware that transferring legal aid can be difficult, so it would be sensible to try speaking to your exisiting solicitor again first (if you have legal aid) to see whether you can clear things up. If you are not happy with the person you've been dealing with you could ask whether there is another solicitor within the same firm who could deal with you from now on.

It sounds to me as though your ex may well have denied that she (or anyone) had been smoking cannabis in your daughter's presence. Have you been contacting your ex further? If you have been contacting her repeatedly about either this concern, or contact generally, this could be seen as harassment which may have resulted in her being advised to consider an injunction

i have been advised to make as little contact as possible so all i do is text to say goodnight to my daughter which i have stopped now

for the last month i had been getting threatening phone calls knowing it was my ex i called the police after three days they rang back to say there was nothing they could do as the calls came from a private number i rang my ex and told her to stop it as she would only get herself into more trouble the calls continued in the end i got very annoyed and sent a text as she dont answer her phone it said i've had enough of this your lucky as so many people wanna give you a slap and i've told them not to but soon im not gonna stop them she called being very threatening again and hung up i replied that if you carry on things are gonna end up worse then that day in the park refering to an arguement we had where a friend of mine gave her a slap and i had to stop her doing more sunday the fifth i got a call from her saying dont bother trying to get a contact order social services dont want you to see our daughter as your a danger i called socail services the following day they said that they would not say such a thing and they would not say it to her as she could use it as ammo tuesday i came back from seeing my solicitor got off the train and walked to the bus stop my ex was there i asked why she had lied about social services she swore at me i then asked did she want me in my daughters life she said she would rather die then let me see her i was very annoyed called a nasty name and said she's the worst mother i knew she punched me in the chest and tried to board a bus i tried to stop her but she barged past five mins later i called police and reported it noone came to take a statment on the thursday morning police knocked i thought they had come about the assult but they had come to arrest me for harassment i asked what for they said for the texts i had sent while in custody i was arrested again for assult which she had reported when officers went to speak to her on that day she said i had pulled her hair while she was on the bus the police had no record of the report i made but took my phone and bailed me for the 30th i've been told by a friend its unlikely i'll get my phone back and am annoyed that my report of her assult was not taken seriously i feel she can do what she wants and gets away with it while im getting screwed over every way i turn:angry: