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Goodtimes1
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19 Aug 15 #465675 by Goodtimes1

Topic started by Goodtimes1

My ex stopped paying CM 18 months ago when got made redundant, now says he feels he''s not obliged to contribute whether in work or out. I''ve had surgery this last year and one of his arguments is that he helps with my 10yr olds school run and has her 2 days pw. His other argument is that I receive CTC and CB. I pay all my daughters costs, which are approx £400-450pm. All I want is some small contribution now or an intention to help out when he is working. He recently some inheritance £18k and didn''t offer us anything - he has another £18k to come.

Can you pls tell me where I stand? Thanks x

MrsMathsisfun
Platinum Member

19 Aug 15 #465677 by MrsMathsisfun

Reply from MrsMathsisfun

If he is working then he should be paying child maintenance, however if he is living off his inheritance then don''t think he will be expected to pay.

Goodtimes1
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19 Aug 15 #465690 by Goodtimes1

Reply from Goodtimes1

Oh wow. So I can''t ask him to even contribute towards things like school uniform? Do I have to rely on his discretion and good will? I am not working either, wish I was. It always seems the non-primary parent gets all the benefits but not the downsides, ie. £££.

sungirl
Premium Member

20 Aug 15 #465698 by sungirl

Reply from sungirl

You need to speak to child maintenance options, they will talk you through the process of getting your ex to pay maintenance which of course he should be paying. You will not get anything from his inheritance if you are divorced but he should be paying you a percentage of his income.

MrsMathsisfun
Platinum Member

20 Aug 15 #465699 by MrsMathsisfun

Reply from MrsMathsisfun

The issue is that the Goodtime ex isnt working so doesnt have a income so csa cant force him to pay.

Goodtimes1
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20 Aug 15 #465707 by Goodtimes1

Reply from Goodtimes1

Ok if CSA route no CSA good. I wondered if I could give him examples of how couples who are 50/50 do it - I seem to remember my solicitor saying Dad''s don''t pay ''maintenance'' but they share the costs sensibly between themselves, eg. uniform, school fees, haircuts, etc. Is that quite common?

Child Maintenance Options
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20 Aug 15 #465728 by Child Maintenance Options

Reply from Child Maintenance Options

Hello Goodtimes1

It is every parent’s responsibility to provide towards their child’s upkeep. If your ex is claiming any benefits, you may be able to claim some maintenance payments from that.

Although maintenance payments cannot be claimed from a one off income such as an inheritance payment, you may be able to claim maintenance from any interest made on your ex’s savings as this may count as a regular income. When using the Child Maintenance Service, this is called a variation. If you would like more information on that, you can speak to them directly or look on www.gov.uk

If you would like information about the different options available to set up maintenance payments and for a more personalised service, you can contact Child Maintenance Options directly, www.cmoptions.org

The Department for Work and Pensions (DWP) have a web application, ‘Sorting out separation’. It aims to make it much easier for separating and separated parents (and childless couples) to find the support they need, when and where they need it, and encourages them to collaborate on a range of issues. The link is www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Sorting-Out-Separation.html

Regards

William

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