early retirment and CSA payment to ex

My ex-partner 16 years younger than me from china split with me last year, we have a 3 year daughter.

I was caring for her 2 weekends and a week per month often more sometimes half the month paying for my own child-minder making my own arrangements buy her clothes days out etc etc.

i am early 50s having been made redundant finding it very hard to get a job but have got a retrain internship at last however means i have to travel to London each day.

my ex not happy with me caring for my daughter 2 weekends an week per month gone to csa.

i ran the numbers discovered that it hopeless for me to make ends meet.

either i am going to be destitute in Wiltshire or working so long hours to make a loss traveling to London.

Wages in Wiltshire means I cannot afford a mortgage so I will have to sell my house anyway

I am considering early retirement going to live with my friend overseas where i can live cheap.

I will sell my house and live on the lump sum until i get a pension and actually enjoy my life for a few years.

My ex without going into it all has basically fleeced me for 9 years used me as a stepping stone to establish her life in the UK and now has a very high pay job and did not need to be so mean.

So basically what’s my life options now i am feeling after 35 years of full time work that early retirement is a good option.

What can the CSA take from my redundancy or house equity or inheritance as my mother is sadly about to pass away from cancer so she will leave me a lump sum.

Add it all up and I have enough to retire.

I would of course be very happy for my daughter to come to live with me during my retirement.

I believe my ex may return to China when her career allows.

So financial advice needed as working in the UK super expensive living and super high tax just not worth it and now the CSA unfair tax on a man who was both paying and caring for his kid its so wrong.

CSA is based on income so equity in house, redundancy and inheritance don''t come into the equation.

Thanks for the feedback, very kind of you



I had hoped this was still an option rather than work until drop while loosing my money each month in rip of Britain.

Is there a good list of Solicitors who can advise me before I actually sell up and go.

Certainly it’s the biggest decision I will ever make so may want to get my options checked before selling or investing.