Court hearing - my experience

vivi36, sorry i don't understand if you ment my daughter dad or my ex's dad, so i will answer the question to both!

My daughters dad I have limited contact with. I have his mobile phone number, and i can text and call him, but it depends if he will answer the phone, or text me back.
I tried my best to make conversation at the contact session, but he seemed very distant, and hostile towards me.

His dad spoke to my mum a lot, and they were friendly to each other. I don't have a contact number for him. His dad seemed to be taking over a lot of the time, and saying things for his son, rather than letting my ex speak. It seemed as though he didn't want his son to say the wrong thing.

Sorry, just read my post and I was referring to grandad. I was wondering if your ex was just going thru the motions so his dad could see his grandaughter. So I was wondering if you could deal directly with grandad in future. Maybe next time ask for grandads number.
Like I say bless you for trying. I would also keep a diary of all contact times and notes of what happened good and bad for your own record, so that if you are ever hauled into court you can state times and dates.
wish you well
x

What a nightmare for you!

It looks like dad isn't bothered about seeing the little one at all. I hate it when people in company sit and text, I have to say something.

It seems that little one's dad is only insisting on seeing her because he can and not because he wants to.

At least you have done the right thing. I have a feeling dad wanting to see the little girl will die a natural death. Sad, but as long as she has your partner and yourself she will be fine.

Im sure the little girl's dad brought her loads of Christmas presents on the visit, didn't he?

Jo x

No, no xmas presents. She is seeing him again on the 19th however, so possibly get some then.
He did ask me at this session if she wanted any this year.
Last year, he wasn't having contact with her, but his parents were. They supposidly came to the house on xmas eve to drop off "a big bag of presents" but they said we didn't answer the door (a lie).
In march, she got her "big bag of presents" which consisted of a stuffed disney princess doll.
I'm thinking it may follow along the same route this year!

He shouldn't be asking if she wants any - all kids want presents. How about emailing him with some stuff that you know she wants. Then he will have no excuse about not knowing what to buy her.

Make it as easy as possible for him, then at least he will be unable to blame you for anything.

Jo x

I don't know if he has internet, as he has apparently just moved out. I will send the list to the e-mail that I have for him though, or send him a text with a few ideas!
I just don't want to seem like i'm saying "here's what she wants, buy it!"
How could I word it so it sounds like its voulantary and i'm not demanding?

You could perhaps write saying that if he was stuck for ideas for presents for the little one that you know she likes such and such (a few items). Then he has choices and his parents might want to buy something that she likes off the choice. I have friends with small children and I always ask what they would like because to be honest it makes it easier for me.

Jo x