an evil ex wife........some kind words please

i am due in court next wednesday for a directions hearing to see more of my daughter (see other posts) and have since found out that the ex is writing a list of accusations to try and stop contact - i dont change my daughters underwear, i dont clean her teeth, i let her eat junk all weekend to name a very few.
Luckily i have a mutual friend who is not being as loyal as the ex believes!!
My daughter is 5 so she obviously cannot be questioned at all.
What on earth do i do/say, she is making me out to be a really terrible father and at the end of the day - its my word against hers

Any advice please????

hi madaboutcars,

I am not familiar with child court, just wanted to note....how does your ex "know" these claims and their seriousness is such..if they were to be true...why not communicate them to you...tongue in cheek but if teeth maintenance is not one of your strong points, bit excessive to take you to court. Good luck and hope all goes well.

Elle x

Hi
I only speak from experience about nasty allegations that my partners ex has made about him.
If I were you, i'd take a list of all the things you do for your daughter.
Eat regular healthy meals
Bath and cleaning teeth
Love
Emotional support
Educational support (reading books / helping with learning alphabet - that kind of stuff)
Maybe taking your daughter to visit extended family (grandparents that love her maybe?)

Stay cool. Stay focused. You're there about your daughter and that's your focus. Your ex is going to all for discrediting you, but let her damage herself by making herself out to be a bitter ex wife. There's plenty of them. Good luck to you - my fingers are crossed...

Stupid woman...

The judge & your sol might want to know where she has sourced her info from!!!

The fact she is not there when you spend time with your daughter is the obvious starting point...

The fact your 5yr old can not speak for herself - or can she??

I would say play it cool - let her make her long list of accusations.. I dont think I have ever heard of a case where a judge has restricted contact beacuse "Daddy doesnt clean daughters teeth"

She will portray herself to be exactly what she is.. Bitter & Twisted..

Be strong - grit yoir teeth n hopefully judge will see straight through her...

Angel 1
x

Don't panic, courts are used to this. Without evidence a judge is going to be hard pushed to choose between allegations and denials. Don't get bogged down with "he says, she says" and focus on the benefits of contact arrangements for the benefit of your child.

As a side issue as it probably doesn't apply here, child workers can get quite a lot of information from children aged 5 or even younger though talking, play and drawings when necessary.

Just tell the truth. It is much more difficult to lie consistently.

Don't try to counter with allegations of your own; rise above it.

Bear in mind, though, that false allegations tend to escalate.

When your daughter is with you try to get someone to take plenty of photographs or video of the two of you together - you may need evidence of that sort later, and if you don't have it (speaking from experience) it may be too late.